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Surround Yourself With Positive People

March 7, 2015

Choose Your Headspace

Want to up level your life? Then you need to spend time with people behaving and living at the level you want to be at. Spend time with five broke people, you’ll be the sixth, spend time with five happy peeps, you’ll be the sixth.

This also applies to what media you pay attention to. Don’t add negativity to your life. The news is NOT important. If it’s life threatening you’ll know about it but you don’t need to fill your head with negative and slanderous news and tabloids every day. Choose your headspace.

Inspiration

Act Like A Queen

February 27, 2015

People Will Treat You How You Let Them Treat You

One of the things I am always telling people is that people will treat you how you let them treat you and if you yourself don’t think you deserve to be treated a certain way, well, you know what’ll happen!

It’s like, when you go into town dressed like a slob VS dressed well and then try to experience the same level of service. You always get treated better when you’re dressed your best.

First, decide you are worthy, then, don’t let anyone treat you any less. And if you’re worried people may leave you if you stand up for yourself then GOOD, they were only around you because you didn’t call them on their shitty behaviour.


Are you ready to live life on your own terms and actually enjoy what you do for a living? Let’s chat.

 

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Give Yourself Permission

February 26, 2015

Give Yourself Permission

Nobody is going to give you permission to go after your dreams and live a life on your own terms. In fact, there will be many who will actively discourage you because they feel safe where you’re at, if you change, everything changes, but you don’t live for other people, you live for you and what’s in your heart.

If you’ve been desiring something different, a new way of living, you desire it for a reason and it means it’s available to you but you need to step up to the plate, CLAIM IT and make it happen.


If you’re ready to make the leap from being employed to being your own boss and you need the courage and a plan to do so, I am your dame, let’s have a chat today, I’m here to help you make your dream life a reality.

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Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway

February 25, 2015

Be Fearless

Fear. Oh man, we all got it bad. Fear of failure, fear of success… Eventually, tho, something has to change, somewhere we gotta feel the fear and do it anyway and know that failure is just feedback. At the end of your life, do you want to have regrets about all the things you were too afraid to take a chance at? Not me, and I’ll try to remember that the next time I’m shaking in my boots!


 

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Money Mindset Breakthrough!

February 19, 2015

If you don’t yet know about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), also known as Tapping, find out about it. Basically, things that happen to us and the resulting beliefs we form become a part of our energetic body and in essence become stuck in us. By tapping on certain meridian points while stating your current feelings about a situation, like when you’re super stressed out or you’ve been triggered, can help you to dislodge those stuck beliefs. This is a very simplified explanation, but it absolutely works.

Now, money is something I have struggled with my entire life. I am an only child from an abusive home and raised by a single mother from the age of 13. When I came across this simple EFT for money blocks video from Nicola Humber, I decided to do it because I’m working on a money hump that I’m trying to overcome right now.

At first I was like, nope, I don’t believe that I don’t deserve the money I want, but then she said “that’s what they told me when I was little” and I realised how my family’s money story affected me. We NEVER had money. My dad was the sole earner and a struggling artist, he was also volatile around money and we feared asking him for money to buy food or pay bills.

When I was older and living with my dad after the divorce, I remember him telling me that he couldn’t wait until I finished high school so that I would no longer be his responsibility and he wouldn’t have to waste his money clothing and feeding me.

Until this video, I had no idea how these experiences could have set a subconscious belief in me that I was undeserving.

Mind blown. I really struggle with trying to uncover all of the limiting and negative beliefs living in me from being abused as a child and bullied at school and all the resulting disasters that happened in my life because I didn’t have the mental capacity or health to make the right decisions. My coping method has been to disassociate from my childhood so it is so difficult to remember what may have caused things still hampering me today.

My healing has taken my whole life and to come across something that can help me uncover another thing to be released is so valuable to me.

I share this with you in the hopes it may help those who also struggle.

If you want to know more about how tapping can help you with your weight or your money issues, I list two excellent books on the subject in my List of Life Changing Books which you can receive by joining my mailing list.

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Screw The Should! Do What Feels Good!

February 18, 2015

THOSE WHO MIND DONT MATTER

What are you not doing because of fear of what some people may think? Will you regret not being authentically you just because of what you think others will think? If so, it’s time to get your shit together and do life on your own terms!

Some may think you’re weird but some will think you’re awesome and be inspired by your bravery to do you as you please. So why focus on the few who aren’t into it when you can focus on those who will love it?

Aim to be the granny/grandpop with the most interesting stories to tell!


If you’re bored, stifled and heading for burnout at your day job and desperate & daydreaming about being your own creative boss, schedule a free consultation with me today to talk about making a plan to escape cubicle nation at selfmadedame.com.

 

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Are You Done Yet?

January 7, 2015

Pep Talk

I am so effing excited for this year. Working with my business coach (the very awesome Carly Dawson), I’ve already mapped out my first coaching program and who my ideal client is and how I will serve them and even have an idea on how I can expand on this in a few months and keep increasing the value of my service.

I can see all of my dreams coming true this year (the better car, the detached house in a quiet neighbourhood, finally getting my arms fully tattooed…). Not only have I done the best thing ever for myself by investing in both a life coach and a business coach, but also investing in changing my mindset around money. Coming from a poor family with a lack mentality has been my achilles heel. I’ve invested a lot of time in reading books on changing my relationship with money.

Today I started ready How To Be Wildly Wealthy Fast by Sandy Forster and it is confirming everything Ive been learning for a while. Our lives reflect our thoughts, if we are always broke its because we are always thinking about how broke we are. What you think about most of the time is what becomes your reality. 

We can LITERALLY MAKE BELIEVE with our lives just as we did as kids. You imagine the way you would like to live and you focus on that all of the time despite your current reality until your reality changes, and it will. But at the end of the day, you have to be ready to change. You have to get to a point where you are so fucking DONE with your repetitive misery that you actively find a way to change it and DO THE WORK.

You have to be ready to let go of your victim story and be brave enough to make a positive change. I think we get so comfortable in the familiar woe-is-me-story that it becomes safe because its familiar, like, the pain is so familiar its comforting. Oh I’ve been there!

But honestly, we can change our lives, it starts with changing your mind, not allowing negative thoughts a second up in there. Crowding them out with gratitude for everything. In this book today I read: all of us at any level are living someone else’s dream life. So if you think you are in dire straits and really struggling, guess what, you’re living someone else’s wildest dreams.

Honestly, we are so spoiled in the first world. Having a safe and warm house, with a comfortable bed and hot water and food in the fridge is a fucking luxury to millions of people around the world and we should be grateful for what we do have, even if we dont know how we are going to pay that water bill.

Appreciating where you are and what you do have is your first step to turning your life around. I overcame depression by crowding out negative thinking with gratitude (as well as ready books on overcoming depression and anxiety), sounds simple, but it works. Gratitude changes lives, try it because its not like your current state of mind has done any good for you is it. So you’ve got nothing to lose by trying something else.

Also respecting yourself enough to get rid of all the shit lying around your house, all that stuff youve been meaning to sort out, just fucking do it. It will take a huge weight off your mind, free up some energy to start flowing and make you feel better because you did something for yourself and finally don’t have stuff around you that brings you down everytime you look at it. That stuff is a physical manifestation of your inner world. Clear it.

Change starts with you and your thoughts. Choose to think differently and your world will change.

I’m living proof of this and Im continually working on this. I have my bad days, everybody does, it is natural, but if you want to stop being a victim in your life and start actually enjoying your life and experiencing what its like to live without stress and anxiety about everything all the time, you have got to get your mind right.

There is a massive wealth of information out there as well as coaches and mentors that can teach and guide you, but you have to be ready to change.

So, are you done yet? Are you so effing sick of yourself and ready to make a change? If you are and you’re ready to do something different and get better results, I’d like to schedule a free 30min Skype chat about where you are and where you want to be, I’ve got some great tools up my sleeves that I used to change my life and I’d love to share them with you. Just hit me up to arrange your time to chat with me :)


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