I’ve been doing a lot of “personal development” and “self improvement” lately. Reading great blogs and being mindful of what I think and feel and asking why and where does it come from and so on.
I noticed I have a recurring issue where I drink and when I drink, I get desperate for male attention.
People always say “you have to love yourself” and “you don’t need a man to make you feel the way you need to feel”…
And let me tell you, that’s all easier said than done!
I decided to give myself a break. I decided to go on a sabbatical from booze and boys.
No more going out and drinking.
And do you know what happened? I found myself slap-bang face up in front of my void, the feeling I was trying to drown with alcohol and male attention, and because I couldn’t cover it up with these “fillers”, I had to learn to ride the storm.
I had to do it for myself. I had to give myself what I needed. I had to face the problem head on and feel it and figure out why it was there and how to handle it being there.
I can tell you it was the best thing that I did for myself. I learned that I am far stronger than I thought I was, where the issue was coming from and that I can give myself what I need instead of going out and looking for someone else to do it.
This doing it for yourself applies to other issues in your life to. And each time I feel like I want to use drink or men or food or sleeping or procrastination to numb the self-esteem issues, I let myself be strong and take it on and deal with it, cold turkey – and I am all the better for it.
No one can make us feel the way we need to feel and we shouldn’t expect anyone to either. We are just human and we cannot fulfil people’s voids without losing ourselves and we cannot ask others to do that for us either. We have to do it for ourselves. We have to let ourselves be strong enough, and believe me, you ARE strong enough.
We are never given more than we can handle, even though it may feel like it in the moment, we always come out stronger on the other side, and there is always another side.
Have you ever overcome an issue by facing it head on? Or doing something else? Tell us about it in the comments 🙂