People Will Treat You How You Let Them Treat You Part 1

June 14, 2011

(Image of Lavender shot by me at The Eden Project)

I remember when I was in my early 20s, thinking about how people don’t actually make us feel anything.  How we feel is all our own doing, its all our own choice.  We choose to react to something someone said or did.  If you feel bad, you choose to feel that way.

Heavy and uncomfortable realisation for some.

But bare with me here.  This is important.

You may argue that someone intended to hurt you or make you feel bad, and while that may be true, there is always, always, a split second moment where you conciously or subconciously decide, or rather, choose, how you will feel about their intended actions.

For every action, there is a reaction.  Your reaction is up to you, regardless of the action’s intent.

If someone says something hurtful to you, you can choose to let it hurt you, or you can choose not to take it on, let it go.  If you understand that someone saying something hurtful to you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them, it becomes a whole lot easier to let those hurtful comments bounce off you.

The stronger you become and the more you love and support yourself and think yourself a pretty awesome person, it becomes even easier to let those comments bounce off you.

One of the reasons we choose to feel hurt by hurtful comments or actions is because sometimes we believe we deserve them for some reason, or we dont yet understand that we dont deserve them.

And this brings us to part 2, arriving tomorrow and if you dont want to miss it, be sure to subscribe to my mailing list and get my posts directly into your inbox where you can refer back to them and forward them on to your friends who might like to read them!

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