Love | The Dame

Im currently reading SARK’s Succulent Wild Woman and this line struck me: “there are a lot of incredible men out there“.

This is not something I have ever really thought. Ive been disappointed and hurt by men my entire life, despite also having many wonderful relationships, Ive just never said a sentence like that to myself or anyone else.

But doesnt it sound good though!? I would very much like to believe that sentence and so I now choose to believe that there are a lot of incredible men out there. That makes me feel really good and Im sure it makes all the incredible men out there shine when I am near BECAUSE I believe in them.

Isnt that wonderful?? To make myself into a type of light that reflects incredible men simply because I choose to believe in them?

What else can I change my perception about in order to make it my reality? The possibilities are endless!

How exciting!

1. We accept the love we think we deserve. Some of us dont feel like we deserve any.

2. We are only capable of doing our best, which doesnt always end up being any good.

3. Communication is everything. If you dont say whats on your mind, it will eat you from the inside.

Cindy comes from a broken home with a father who treated her mother like absolute shit. Now she is with a man who worships the ground she walks on and gives his life to her and their child. She doesnt know how to live in a stable family, she doesnt know who she is in this environment. She feels guilty about her previous boyfriend and doesnt feel she deserves to be treated so well. She closes up because she doesnt think he deserves her.

If she wanted him to be better, all she had to was ask. Men are not mind readers. Why must he have to say he will get better for her, can she not see that he is a rare kind of man, the kind of man who just wants to do whatever makes her happy. He asks her throughout the movie “what do you want?”, any good man needs the direction of his beloved woman because he lives to please her.

Blue Valentine is a very intense and depressing film, but with many good messages in it.