The Concept and Importance of Living In The Moment

March 10, 2011

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The older I get, the more I understand the concept and importance of Living In The Moment.

When youre young, you take time for granted, you have your whole life ahead of you after all, youre fresh out of mommy and daddy’s pocket.

Slowly you start realising that things dont always happen like you would like to, people dont get on bored like you thought they would and moments in time dont last as long as you hoped.

Being a perfectionist control freak, the concept of “the only time is now” or “all we have is this moment” has been a long and difficult lesson to learn.

And yet so, so important.

You may meet someone new and you take ages to express how you feel and then suddenly its over for whatever reason and you feel hurt or at a loss.

Thats when you have to learn that, the moments you have, are all that you have.  Theyre not leading up to anything, they exist only as they happen.  There is no future and no past, only the moment you are experiencing.

So, hold their hand, say “I love you”, take a mental picture, take a picture with your camera, taste their skin, feel their warmth, take that leap, enjoy the feeling as and when it happens, dont let it go by because youre too busy wondering what all of it means for the future.

The more you let go and connect with the moments you get to experience, the better you appreciate life and the less loss you feel when things dont work out how you hoped because you werent hoping for anything, you were just enjoying that moment instead.

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  • KC March 10, 2011 at 8:55 am

    You have no idea just how much this piece of wisdom helped me out tonight.

    My BF told me earlier today that he may be working in Hawaii- we live in California, but not together- and I assumed that he got a promotion and was moving there. I was shocked. I was hit so hard by an emotional punch that I was just speechless. I got this news as I arrived to work and it was very hard for me to remain composed.

    I like to think of myself as independent and I try to stray away from being co-dependent with the BF. With the news, I realized just how attached I was to him that I couldn’t bear to be away from him. My first instinct was give up and break it off. I didn’t wanna do the long-distance thing. I guess it really wasn’t love after all? But that was me being a coward and running away from things. We’ve been together for over 2 years and I told myself that I shouldn’t be selfish and be angry at him for taking on the promotion.

    I was cycling through anger and sadness and whatever else during work until I went to your Tumblr and found this gem. It brought tears to my eyes because what you wrote was so damn moving and hit me to the core. I love him and just want to be with him and share whatever moments we have. I shouldn’t let the fear of what may happen control me. Your words of wisdom truly let me see past the fog of my emotions and got me through work and with him.

    Turns out some trainers at his job were going to Hawaii to train other associates. He isn’t going, but there may be a potential to go. And if he did get a job there I would stick with him and just work through our moments and see what happens.

    This is what happens when text messages are taken the wrong way! 😛

    • The Dame March 10, 2011 at 12:27 pm

      Wow, KC, thank you so much for your lovely message, it makes me SO happy to know something I wrote helped someone else. A lot of the time write things to get through whatever Im going through! Im glad that you now know where you stand in your relationship in your heart and that it was just a shock to help you see that and now you can handle things better when they really happen! 🙂