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The Best of January

February 6, 2014


I was given the opportunity to volunteer again at the guest farm I went to in 2012. This time around they had started a rural farm school for the local pre-schoolers and I got to experience teaching 21 amazing four and five year olds with puzzles, colouring in and outdoor activities, it was an amazing experience that I will never forget!

Picture 1: Saying hello to Angel the Vaal deer who was being hand reared when I was last there.

Picture 2: Saying hello to some wild cattle who graciously to take a selfie with me.

Picture 3: Saying hello to one of my grand children. When I was last at the farm, on my second day, I had to find and carry back from a far off field two new born goats, one male, one female, so we named them after me, Lisa and Tony (my middle name is Toni). Lisa has now had two girls who are the most loving goats I’ve ever known!

Picture 4: Meeting a very outgoing cockateel who tried to nibble off my tattoos, a scab on my knuckle and then wear my sunglasses!

Picture 5: Being the school arm chair with Jane, Thando, Gift and Patience (who I later saved from drowning!).

Picture 6: Out on one of the trail rides, I will never get used to the epic view from up those mountains!

Picture 7: Swimming in a waterfall that we hiked too, what a spiritual experience! Nature is my church.

Picture 8: Swimming in a damn, again, so good for the soul.

Picture 9: Spotting a giraffe on our way into Nelspruit.

I highly recommend volunteering, you learn so much about the culture your sharing your experience with and grow so much as a person.

I will be doing a more extended post about my time volunteering on the farm so watch this space for an epic photo essay!


Onto The Next Chapter

February 1, 2014


I’m turning 35 in 5 days.

I can’t quite believe it. I certainly don’t feel as old! I have 27 days left in South Africa but I’m itching to get home and get on with my goals, I’ve got big plans for this year, launching my Holistic Health Coaching business, an anti-hate T-shirt campaign and moving back to SA later in the year, once everything is up and running. Graduating in the summer, getting new tattoos, becoming more spiritual, meditating properly, taking better care of my body, becoming stronger and happier, more grounded, grateful and generous. Truly understanding and accomplishing forgiveness, and taking time to also enjoy life and hopefully meet more amazing people and have more incredible experiences.

How do you want to feel this year?


Leaving On A Jetplane

November 28, 2013


As you read this I am currently jetting my way to South Africa where I will be spending three months in Durban to escape the brunt of the nasty UK winter. I am looking forward to posting about my adventures and bringing you some sunshine while I am away!

The Dame


Mad for Motel Rocks

November 8, 2013

Party season is almost upon us and I am mad for sequin dresses! I like people to know I was there! Motel currently have a party girl quiz on their site and I came up with Sequin Starlet, go figure! They’re also giving away a discount code depending on your quiz result. Nice. Wanna know my answers? Rihanna / Jamie Dornan (swoon!) / Black Eyeliner / Statement Necklace / Twin Buns / Sequin Dress. Now if only I could put those all together – go to a party at Rihanna’s with Jamie Dornan as my date and with me in one of the sexy sequin dresses below, twin buns, my statement necklace and de rigueur black eyeliner. Sorted.

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Seriously, how do you choose? Obviously I will simply have to go to a different party for every sequin dress! That quilted skirt is so badass; the plum romper is perfect for hot summer days which I will be enjoying in Durban until March; I love the velvet Chinese style dress for work dinners and the red polka dot dress is just heavenly!

Time to break out that credit card…


Music: Furns [Free Downloads]

November 8, 2013

I’m not sure how I happened upon Furns but I’m so glad I did. Beautiful female vocal over trippy, dreamy, layers of melodies that feel like swimming in Gatsby’s pool on a hot summer’s evening in slow motion. Definitely an album to put on repeat if you’re having sexy time!


A duo composed of singer and pianist Monika Faludi (24) and programmer Mathias Dahl (22), Furns was formed in September 2011 and has since been recording their dreamy electropop songs in a makeshift studio – either their bathroom or bedroom – in Copenhagen, Denmark.

All 11 of the following tracks are free to download from Soundcloud. Their debut single, Love Aches, as well as another track, Power, are available to buy for just $1.

More about the band.


My Summer

September 4, 2013


Summer took it’s sweet time about showing up this year and after a particularly brutal and lengthy winter, it was very welcome. I dusted off my beautiful bike and went exploring the town I landed in mid October and to my happy surprise, discovered an enormous and very beautiful tree filled park just a short bike ride away. Continue Reading…


The Love List…

May 25, 2013

Part of becoming a more positive, less depressed person means practicing gratitude all of the time. A great way to do this is to have a daily gratitude journal but I don’t want to clog up my blog with that so, starting next week, I’ve chosen Thursdays as the day to share with the world the things I am currently loving and feel appreciation for. I hope it inspires you to find gratitude in all the myriad ways there are!

hyperbole and a half depression

I love that:

  • my cat Marley is so soft to touch, is such a loveable, sweet cat, practically never meows and often has me laughing.
  • he cuddles with me whenever possible and is always happy to see me when I come home after being away
  • I have benefactors that love to send Me gifts and help pay for my tuition
  • my bed is the cosiest, most comfortable, warm cloud of bliss and coming home to it is my favourite thing
  • I can wake up whenever I want to and am not obliged to an alarm
  • I can study to become an holistic health coach in a year and help people to heal their health and lives anywhere in the world
  • I am always taken care of and just need to remember to relax because whenever I stress, it stops the flow, the moment I relax and let go, everything sorts itself out
  • there are so many amazing healers and inspirational people out there who all have blogs and Facebook pages that I can go to every day for inspiration and enlightenment
  • I have perfect health and the ability to heal myself and take care of myself
  • birds singing remind me to be grateful
  • sunshine puts everyone in a better mood
  • music is so instrumental to healing and raising our vibrations
  • I am constantly growing and learning
  • I have friends all over the world
  • I can ride horses
  • I have an awesome bicycle to ride whenever I want
  • we’re moving out of winter
  • my mom has a job she wants and will be promoted soon
  • my future is bright and this has been confirmed by an amazing psychic that I saw last week
  • I can have my energy healed and realigned through EFT, kinesieology, crystals, meditation and reiki
  • our word is so diverse
  • I live on the edge of the countryside

What are you loving at the moment? What do you appreciate? How do you feel blessed? What are you thankful for? Let us know in the comments!


Monday Motivation

April 22, 2013

Dove hired a forensic artist to draw how women see themselves versus how others see them – the results are moving.


The Dame Is Two Years Old Today

February 21, 2013

Wow, I it’s hard to believe I’ve had this spot on the web for two years. It all started with my most popular post How To Be Skinny and since then I have written some great posts on how to be better at life, told my stories and shared my travels with you all.

The Dame now, is much better than it was two years ago but still has a long way to go and I am more than happy to grow and develop with her.

Thank you all for sticking around and inspiring me along the way, the people who read The Dame are the ones who make it all worth while.

Big love

The Dame

The Dame


It’s My Birthday! Aquarians Are Awesome!

February 5, 2013

Hey everybody!

Today I turned 34. OH. MY. GOD.


I seriously cannot get my head around my actual, on my passport age. I certainly don’t feel anywhere near my age. I mean yeah, I’m blessed with awesome wisdom and know-better knowledge, but if I look at other people my age, they’re all married with kids and boring, dull jobs (mostly), while I just keep getting more awesome haha!


Nothing’s changed, I still love horses, food and being barefoot!

This weekend some of my closest friends and I will be dressing up and going to Proud Cabaret in Camden to celebrate. I really can’t wait because I love burlesque and performance art, especially since that’s a dream I never made happen… I also have two very close friends with birthdays either side of me (3rd and 8th Feb) and am good friends with a guy who shares the exact same birthdate as me! And they are all awesome peeps!


I love being in my 30’s though. On my 30th birthday I had some sexy times with my 19 year old flatmate while living in Western Australia, and I tell you this, not only because I have no shame, but because it’s moments like that which remind me I’ve had an awesome life and will have many great memories to look back on when I’m old (and probably still a spinster).


Being in my 30’s means I know myself so much more and I care less what people think. I’ve made it through 30 years of trials and tribulations and because of that I’ve come to honour and respect myself. Your 20’s can be hell and I always say moving from your 20’s to your 30’s is like being on a ship in a white squall and then when you hit 30, the storm finally ends and it’s (relatively) plain sailing. You just suddenly calm down, or at least I did, and things make sense and become a bit easier (probably because you’ve become better at life).

I started partying pretty young, at 14, going out drinking and finding a lift home and I partied pretty hard right up until my mid 20’s. These days I would rather stay at home with pizza, wine and a good movie or go out to dinner with friends. Occasionally I get wild at some unusual event and I think that’s essentially what keeps us young, the intention to never let go of our childish wonder and fearless expression.


I’m still pretty scared of being 40 and I don’t date guys older than me (they scare me too, but probably because I’m so young at heart), but my mom is just 20 years older than me and she is known among my friends as the cool mom who parties with us – she has a huge tattoo on her entire back designed by one of our friends – so I know things will be a-ok.


Are any of you born in February? Know any Aquarians? Say hello in the comments so I can wish you a happy birthday!

Portrait and painting done by my dad.

Monday Motivation

February 4, 2013

Rethinking the Bucket List: Kathleen Taylor at TEDx TampaBay.

Kathleen Taylor is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor with over 20 years of experience in the nonprofit healthcare and social services sector. She currently directs the community engagement functions of a large nonprofit hospice organization.

In her career, Kathleen has worked with children in foster care, teens in the juvenile justice system, people with traumatic brain-injuries, priests awaiting ordination, people who are dying and those that love them, faith communities, coalitions, healthcare organizations, first responders, women’s groups, public libraries, and even dental offices.

Thanks to Scott D for sending me this.