How To Be Grateful and Change Your Life

December 26, 2012

While offering up a little thanks when something especially awesome happens in your life is  better than never doing it, there is so much more to gratitude that can completely change your life.

beach__by_ravenskarIn fact, gratitude should be the number one prescription by any Dr or healer.

Gratitude itself heals.  It fixes depression, calms anxiety and turns what you have, into enough and more.

If you feel like your life is lacking, it’s because you’re not counting your blessings.

Have you ever tried to give someone a gift and they have refused it?  It made you not want to give that person a gift again.  Gratitude works the same way.  If you never express gratitude for the things that you have, it’s unlikely that you will be able to manifest the things that you want.

People go about gratitude in different ways, Gala Darling and Louise L. Hay both make a gratitude list in their journals when they wake up.  Other people pray before they go to sleep.  Personally, I make mental gratitude lists any time of the day and especially when I need a pick-me-up.

But it’s the way you are grateful that can make all the difference.  Focusing on how you want to feel on a daily basis is a start.  Ok, let’s say you want to feel joyful and positive every day, what would that take?  When you strip it all down, you realise that being grateful for various things would make you feel the way you want to feel.  Even if you don’t have those things.

First, be grateful for what you do have, like food in the fridge, a warm and safe home to live in, a hot shower, a comfortable bed, friends and family who love and support you, the ability to earn a living and help others, whatever is true for you, whatever makes you feel good when you think about them.  Then, from that place of feeling good, you play pretend and you list things you would also like to be grateful, like a new car, or finally paying off that credit card, or getting a clean bill of health report from the doctor, whatever you really want to add to your gratitude list, that’s what you need to be grateful for, even if you don’t yet have it.  Trust me, it puts a big smile on your face and raises your vibration when you start being grateful for the things you want.  It also speeds up their manifestation into your reality.

Last week I was on my way to the corner shop to pick up a bottle of wine and a few things for dinner and I realized I had a skip in my step because I was feeling such inexplicable joy and happiness and I started to think about how incredibly grateful I am for my life and the world I live in.  When I got home, there was a message from a spiritual healer that I admire and feel a deep need to work with.  Unfortunately I don’t have the money for her healing course, but her message was that she would like to offer it to me for free.

Gratitude manifests.

Gratitude also crowds out negative thinking.  Whenever I start to have negative thoughts, and believe me, there is a snotty little shit in my head that is always trying to bring me down, I smother it with gratitude.  I count my blessings till it can’t be heard.  This practice has helped me stave off depression and anxiety for longer and longer periods.  My bouts of depression are fewer and father between and I am learning my triggers, which are always, letting negative thinking get to me.


Gratitude reminds me of how good I have it, and how far I’ve come and what I’m capable of.  These thoughts alone make it hard for depression to take a hold because they are the exact opposite of what depressive thoughts are.

Whenever I notice my life starting to slip into the shit, I ask myself, “when last did you count your blessings?” and it usually turns out it was too long ago.

So my challenge for you is to count your blessings every morning and night while brushing your teeth, or whenever you’re feeling good so it’s like a dance party with your heart and it just keeps getting better, and then watch how your life changes.

You can start now, tell me at least three things you are grateful for in the comments below, go!

Love & light xo

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  • Ryan Chatterton December 26, 2012 at 9:25 pm

    I followed you from Penelope’s blog feeling like I needed an internet adventure. First, I’m grateful you wrote this post. It’s been a few weeks since I’ve had that stressful burden lifted from my heart (thank you!).

    Now, what are my 3 things I’m grateful for?

    1. Last night I connected with a distant family member that gets me when many of my family members don’t. He’s been doing motivational speaking and working on a coaching practice and he’s a really normal, down to earth guy. I suppose I’m grateful for the knowledge that I’m not crazy and that somebody in my family totally gets (though in a different field) what I’m about.
    2. I’m grateful that my Dad flew me down to see him and the family for Christmas. It was very generous of him.
    3. I’m grateful for the people in my hometown community that I’ve connected with and built projects with. It’s inspiring and reassuring to know that there are people out there trying to make a difference.

    Thanks again for the post!

    • The Dame December 27, 2012 at 2:30 am

      Hey Ryan! Thanks for your comment and your gratitude list, didnt it make you feel so much better? 🙂

  • Phil December 28, 2012 at 8:53 am

    Very well worded post. I enjoyed reading it and agree with what you said.

    1- I am grateful for my family and circle of friends in my life

    2 – I am grateful for my good health

    3 – I am grateful for the wonderful woman who shares my life and puts up with me!