How To Stop Hating Yourself

March 5, 2013

You are whatever you say you are, so why not choose something else to be? Something better?

stop hating yourself be grateful instead

No one is going to tell you that you are good enough, you have to decide that for yourself, even when other people are trying to tell you otherwise because they are jealous of your self confidence.

Life only happens for people who choose to be confident.

You can be amazing, you only have to decide that you are.  You can show the world your talents, you only have to decide that you are good enough.

The only thing you should hate yourself about is that you listened to the lies being told in advertising and media telling you in ever subliminal ways that you aren’t good enough so that they can sell their products to you.

Step out of the lie and choose to see the real you.

Choose to ignore things that don’t make you feel good. Stop reading beauty magazines and obsessing about your weight or what guys want. Neither of these things matter and both go hand in hand.

If you are confident, meaning if you like yourself, at whatever weight, guys will like you because the most attractive thing about anyone is that they like themselves and feel like the deserve a place in the world.

I see far too much self loathing going on with teenagers on Tumblr and it’s really upsetting. Looking at a picture of someone else and then hating yourself because you don’t look like them is absurd and disrespectful to the being that you are. Learn to look at yourself and find ways to like what you see without the tinted glasses of media and advertising.

Unless you are born a 5’8 skinny girl with a pretty face, you will never look like a super model, so give it up. Just be the best you can be.  That means eating right and finding a type of exercise that you really fall in love with, like surfing, or dancing, something that makes you stronger, challenges you and that you can progress in while you are having fun.

It boils down to having fun. If you don’t enjoy being you, life will always suck. It’s not cool to hate yourself, no one wants to hate themselves but everyone does it these days that now it seems strange if anyone ever feels confident. You decide.

If you have a family that treats you like crap, ignore them as much as you can until you can leave. It’s unfair and unfortunate but you don’t have to listen. My father was extremely violent and verbally abusive and threatened to shoot us in our sleep and look how I turned out. Yes I’m a bit crazy, but I’m stronger for it and I can write stuff like this because I learned to survive and I’m working on thriving.

Gratitude fixes everything.

Every time you start to think bad thoughts about yourself, cover them up with ten things to be grateful for until you cant remember what it was you were trying to think of in the first place. Trust me, you can think of a lot of things to be grateful. See one charity advert about starving kids in Africa and there are ten things right there you can be grateful for.  Eventually you get really good at realizing just how easy you have it and you start wondering how you ever got off hating yourself and feeling bad about your life when you are so blessed.  Write it down if you have to.

The world needs you to be strong and confident.

If you didn’t spend all the time hating yourself, you could be discovering new cures for things, or inventing things, or stumbling onto something that could change the world. You are not here for no reason, you are an entire human body and more of potential, stop wasting that by obsessing about your fake idea of what you are and actually discover what you are truly capable of.

Your thoughts create your reality. Change your mind, change your life.

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  • Phil March 5, 2013 at 9:31 pm

    Well put, and this applies to both men and women.

    Wow – can’t believe that about your dad. Yes, the media is a major cause of depression and despair for many people. We all have to just choose to be ourselves and live the best we can be.

    • July 24, 2013 at 9:58 pm

      Outstanding post however I was wanting to know if you could write a litte more on this subject?
      I’d be very grateful if you could elaborate a little bit more. Thanks!

  • AJ March 6, 2013 at 8:34 am

    Definitely insightful. It’s so easy to assume everyone else has it all together, while neglecting your own self-confidence and goals. “Your thoughts create your reality” could not be truer. Thanks so much for sharing this!

  • Elisa B October 19, 2013 at 10:17 am

    I can see you read a bit of Louise Hay, right? XD I’m loving what she says and I’m loving what you said, and I’ve only started the gratitude thing recently; I do it every morning and you just get up happier and ready to live your life at the fullest! If you haven’t read anything by her, read it by all means! <3

    • The Dame October 21, 2013 at 1:48 pm

      I love Louise Hay, she has really opened my mind to a lot of good stuff, highly recommend 🙂

      Keep an eye out for my gratitude project launching in the next few weeks xo

      • Elisa B October 22, 2013 at 3:23 pm

        Weeee I can’t wait! 😀