People Will Treat You How You Let Them Treat You Part 2

June 15, 2011

Now that you’ve had time to let Part 1 of this lesson sink in, let’s move on to Part 2.

Understanding that we have control over how we feel about other people’s words and actions gives us power and helps us learn what we will and won’t stand for or take personally.

Knowing this helps us to know what kind of behaviour we will or won’t accept from others.  If you dont like the way other people treat you, you can change it.

Again, you choose what sort of behaviour you lie or don’t like and if you don’t like it, don’t allow it.  That means being strong enough to say out loud to that person that you don’t appreciate the way they are speaking to you or treating you, or avoiding situations and people who cause these situations.

You don’t have to allow people to mistreat you.  And you don’t have to feel guilty about standing your ground.  You cannot live your whole life pleasing everyone else but yourself.  It makes you miserable and other people take advantage of you.

This doesn’t mean you have to become a cold hearted person, it just means that you set boundaries, you allow behaviour that supports you and helps you to grow and be the best you can be and you don’t allow behaviour and people who do the opposite of that.

We are raised to “be nice” all too often to our own detriment.  I guarantee you that people will show you a lot more respect when you respect yourself enough to stand your ground about what type of behaviour you will or wont allow and if they don’t, they shouldn’t be in your life.

Being strong enough to stand your ground comes from feeling like you deserve it, knowing that you deserve to be treated right and feeling like you deserve the best treatment all boils down to your own opinion of yourself.  If your own opinion is low, other people’s opinion of you will be also.

Thinking highly of yourself is allowed and anyone trying to tell you different are afraid of others being their full selves because they haven’t quite figured out how to do it themselves.

Show them.

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