Choosing Your Reality: Incredible Men

Posted on December 21, 2011 by The Dame

Im currently reading SARK’s Succulent Wild Woman and this line struck me: “there are a lot of incredible men out there“.

This is not something I have ever really thought. Ive been disappointed and hurt by men my entire life, despite also having many wonderful relationships, Ive just never said a sentence like that to myself or anyone else.

But doesnt it sound good though!? I would very much like to believe that sentence and so I now choose to believe that there are a lot of incredible men out there. That makes me feel really good and Im sure it makes all the incredible men out there shine when I am near BECAUSE I believe in them.

Isnt that wonderful?? To make myself into a type of light that reflects incredible men simply because I choose to believe in them?

What else can I change my perception about in order to make it my reality? The possibilities are endless!

How exciting!

Serving Suggestion: How To Keep The Spark In The Relationship

Posted on August 14, 2011 by The Dame

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+ change up your routine. if you always call at a certain time, or wait for the phone to ring, get on with your own life first.

+ dont always be available, if he is used to contacting you at a specific time, or knows youre always there, change it up a bit, make him wonder where you are.

+ get a life. do all the things you want to do and let him fit in around what makes you happy and fulfilled first.

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+ dont let him be the one to give your life meaning and purpose. get that from elsewhere like working out or studying or spending time doing something you really enjoy.

+ dont cancel your plans for him, let him know that you come first.

+ do something different in bed than your usual 4-step shag.

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+ let him be the man of the house, even if you can do it yourself, let him do it, stroking his ego makes him feel needed and desirable – hello sexy sex again!

+ dont criticise him or complain about him, and especially not in front of other people. there are better ways to get better behaviour from him.

+ when he does something you like, praise him a lot and tell him he is “the best!”, you will guarantee more of that good behaviour!

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+ let him know other men find you attractive, but dont be nasty about it. look good, take care of yourself and maybe casually mentioned you got whistled at today, remind him youre a catch

+ never forget that you are a prize to be won!

+ never compromise yourself so much to keep the peace that you lose yourself entirely.

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+ always stand up for yourself. men respect a woman who will not let him get away with shit. – remember, people will treat you how you let them treat you.

+ surprises always add a spark! do something you both enjoy completely out of the blue, or something youve always wanted to do!

+ take care of yourself and your happiness first.

Do you have any other tips on how to keep the spark in the relationship? Share them in the comments!

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Three Things The Movie Blue Valentine Teaches You

Posted on February 23, 2011 by The Dame

1. We accept the love we think we deserve. Some of us dont feel like we deserve any.

2. We are only capable of doing our best, which doesnt always end up being any good.

3. Communication is everything. If you dont say whats on your mind, it will eat you from the inside.

Cindy comes from a broken home with a father who treated her mother like absolute shit. Now she is with a man who worships the ground she walks on and gives his life to her and their child. She doesnt know how to live in a stable family, she doesnt know who she is in this environment. She feels guilty about her previous boyfriend and doesnt feel she deserves to be treated so well. She closes up because she doesnt think he deserves her.

If she wanted him to be better, all she had to was ask. Men are not mind readers. Why must he have to say he will get better for her, can she not see that he is a rare kind of man, the kind of man who just wants to do whatever makes her happy. He asks her throughout the movie “what do you want?”, any good man needs the direction of his beloved woman because he lives to please her.

Blue Valentine is a very intense and depressing film, but with many good messages in it.