- We accept the love we think we deserve. Some of us dont feel like we deserve any.
- We are only capable of doing our best, which doesnt always end up being any good.
- Communication is everything. If you dont say what’s on your mind, it will eat you from the inside.
Cindy comes from a broken home with a father who treated her mother like absolute shit. Now she is with a man who worships the ground she walks on and gives his life to her and their child. She doesn’t know how to live in a stable family, she doesn’t know who she is in this environment. She feels guilty about her previous boyfriend and doesn’t feel she deserves to be treated so well. She closes up because she doesn’t think he deserves her.
If she wanted him to be better, all she had to was ask. Men are not mind readers. Why must he have to say he will get better for her, can she not see that he is a rare kind of man, the kind of man who just wants to do whatever makes her happy. He asks her throughout the movie “what do you want?”, any good man needs the direction of his beloved woman because he lives to please her.
Blue Valentine is a very intense and depressing film, but with many good messages in it.